You Love God. And You're Struggling With Sex. Both Things Are True.
Sexual healing and recovery for individuals and couples ready to stop hiding, tell the truth, and rebuild real connection — without losing their faith.
For the Christian who is tired of carrying this alone.
DayOne Therapy® | Amber Gonzalez, LPC New Jersey · Georgia · Private Pay · New Clients Within 24 Hours
This is for the person who loves God — genuinely, deeply, really loves God — and who also has a secret they have never told anyone.
Maybe it is porn. Maybe it is masturbation they cannot stop no matter how many times they pray about it. Maybe it is desires they have never said out loud. Maybe it is a marriage where the intimacy disappeared so slowly they did not notice until it was gone. Maybe it is shame so deep it has become the loudest voice in the room.
You have probably tried accountability partners. Bible studies. Fasting. Promising yourself it would be the last time.
And here you are.
Not because your faith is not real. Not because you are a bad person. But because shame alone has never healed anyone — and willpower was never designed to carry what trauma left behind.
This is where that changes.
A Note on This Work
I want to be honest with you about where I am in this specialty — because you deserve that.
I am trained in sex therapy and compulsive sexual behavior recovery. I am not claiming decades of specialization I do not have.
What I can tell you is this:
I am a licensed trauma therapist with 13+ years of clinical experience working with shame, religious trauma, childhood wounds, and the complex patterns that live underneath compulsive behavior. I understand — clinically and personally — how faith, shame, and sexuality get tangled together. And I am already seeing meaningful results with the clients I am working with in this area.
This is not a space where someone who has never sat with this will tell you to just stop.
This is a space where a trauma-trained clinician who understands the faith piece — from the inside — will sit with you in it honestly.
If you are ready for that kind of work — we will be a very good fit.
You might be dealing with:
Pornography use you cannot seem to stop — despite wanting to, praying about it, and promising yourself it would be the last time
Compulsive masturbation wrapped in shame you have never spoken out loud to anyone
Hiding things from your partner — and the distance that secrecy creates over time
Feeling far from your partner — emotionally, physically, spiritually — and not knowing how to find your way back
Feeling far from yourself — split between who you want to be and what you keep doing
Sexual shame rooted in purity culture, religious teaching, or a faith community that made your body feel like the enemy
Intimacy struggles that nobody in your church circle would understand
What we actually do:
We slow things down and tell the truth.
We look at:
✦ How you really feel God sees you — not just what you say, but what you feel in your body when you are alone with that question
✦ What is actually happening in your nervous system when urges come up — because this is trauma work, not just willpower work
✦ The thoughts and desires you have never said out loud to anyone
✦ What porn or masturbation is doing FOR you — comfort, escape, control, numbing, connection — because it is always doing something
✦ The shame you carry and how it is affecting your relationship with yourself, your partner, and your God
✦ How to feel like one whole person — not split between the good version and the secret version
This is trauma-informed, faith-aware, shame-free clinical work. Not a church program. Not accountability software. Actual therapy.
What this space feels like:
No judgment. No shame. No "just stop doing it."
Just honesty.
Because healing does not start with hiding. It starts with telling the truth.
For the first time — to someone safe enough to tell it to.
A Word on Faith and This Work
I am a Christian. My faith is real and it is mine.
I also understand — clinically and personally — that the shame most Christians carry around sexuality is not from God. It is from what was taught about God. And those are two very different things.
This space honors your faith completely. We are not here to deconstruct your belief system or tell you that your convictions are wrong.
We are here to separate the shame that was handed to you from the faith that is actually yours.
You can be fully devoted to God and fully honest about this struggle. Those two things are not in conflict.
That is exactly what this work makes possible.
Before You Apply:
I do not work with everyone. This specialty requires a specific kind of readiness — and I want to be honest with you about that upfront.
This is for people who are ready to:
✦ Be fully honest — not the edited version, the real one
✦ Go deeper than surface-level behavior management
✦ Do the actual work — not just talk about doing it
✦ Sit with discomfort in service of real change
If that is you — we will be a very good fit.
If you are looking for someone to validate your current patterns without challenging them — this is not the right space.
And that is okay. Readiness is not a judgment. It is just timing.
INVESTMENT:
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60 Minutes $225
Individual 90 Minutes $300
Individual 2-Hour Intensive $425
Couples 60 Minutes $275
Couples 90 Minutes $375
Couples 2-Hour Intensive $550
Private-pay only. Superbill available for potential out-of-network reimbursement.New clients seen within 24 hours.Telehealth available in New Jersey and Georgia.
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You have been carrying this quietly for a long time.
The faith. The shame. The secret. The version of yourself you show everyone and the version that shows up when no one is watching.
You do not have to keep holding both of those alone.
This is the space where you can finally put it down — not by abandoning your faith, but by telling the truth inside it.
New clients seen within 24 hours.Telehealth available in New Jersey and Georgia.Private-pay only.
📱 Text "I'm Ready" to 856-887-4647 🌐 dayonetherapynj.com
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